I know I’m not the only woman who struggles with living the life right in front of me. Often I live looking forward to the day when things will be “normal” again – whatever that means. I think, “if I can just get through these next few weeks, then things will get better.” And yet, I’m missing out on the life that I have right now.
Life is messy. It feels like I can never keep up. And I so desperately want to live my life well.
These are just a few of the reasons why the title of this book caught my attention. I had to know if this Alexandra Kuykendall had found the answers to the question I’ve been asking myself. How can I live my life well?
Every parent wants their children to be extraordinary – to stand out in the crowd for their accomplishments and character. Everyone wants to raise uncommon kids.
I’m no different.
But raising uncommon kids takes uncommon effort. It’s not something that happens over night, but something that happens over a lifetime.
Common parents, like myself, need a roadmap to help us develop uncommon children. Thankfully there is one.
I used to believe that I was the only woman who struggled with my identity as a wife and mother. Since my marriage, I’ve wanted to embrace the new role I’d been given – homemaker. But part of me has always wanted more.
When I read the description of this book, I knew I had to read and review it.
Emily was telling my story.
Do you ever feel like you are worthless? Like the whole world is against you? Like you have no real hope for the future?
David Ring had every reason to feel that way. He was pronounced dead at birth and suffered many physical issues because of it. His mother, however, loved him greatly and did everything she could for him.
Then she died.
Could he withstand the negative forces bombarding him? Or would he quickly follow his mother to the grave?
If you’re like me, you had your life all planned out since childhood. You knew what you were going to do, when you were going to do it, and where you would be when you reached the age you are now. And, if you’re like me, you’ve discovered that life doesn’t work like that.
Welcome to the journey to Becoming what God wants you to be.
Jenny Simmons has been there too. Her book The Road to Becoming is full of rich examples of how God worked through her life, despite her plans. Do you need a dose of encouragement today? Are you feeling broken?
This book is for you!
I don’t know about you, but motherhood isn’t exactly what I envisioned it to be. Growing up, I thought I had it all figured out. I was always good with kids, getting them to comply and do what I wanted them to do. As a teacher, I was able to motive my students and encourage them to great heights. I thought I had this parenting thing in the bag.
Boy was I wrong.
Stop trying to be perfect.
Stop it right now!
I’ve lived my life trying to be perfect – always doing the right thing, anticipating what others want me to be and do before they can ask. Let me tell you, it is exhausting and very wrong. God doesn’t expect us to be perfect. He loves us as we are – even the messy parts.
We believe those things in principle, but practice is harder. After all, how can God not expect the best from us? How can He not want us to do everything in our power to be the very best person and Christian we can be?
Life if busy! We, as women, jump from one activity to another. We run, run, run – always caring for those around us, solving their problems, and keeping the world running. But at the end of the day, it’s easy to realize we’ve done nothing for ourselves.
I’m often guilty of this very thing. I neglect the interests and activities that make me unique, and focus on always doing for others. While there is nothing wrong with doing for others – in fact, it is very right to take care of our families, work hard for our employers, and minister to those around us. But if we don’t spend time recharging our creative batteries, we will find that our lives are flat and unfulfilled.
But how can busy women like us make time for those fun extras?
I love books that encourage and inspire. Sitting down with The Beauty of Grace, edited by Dawn Camp, is like sitting down with a group of close friends. The women in this book are so open and raw in the way they share their hearts with us readers.
Several entries touched me in a profound way. I identified with the woman scared of losing her child after dealing with infertility. I cried with the woman who didn’t even have $2 to pay for bananas. I felt like I was with these women in the intimate moments discovering God’s work in their lives.
In reading their stories, I was forced to slow down and think about my story. How is God revealing Himself to me right now? Do I see him in the everyday moments while my son plays with his toys or asks me to read him the story of David and Goliath for the seventeenth time today? Do I have heart-to-heart times with my Savior while up to my elbows in soap suds?